Jaamit

by rishil on November 28, 2010

I met Jaamit through our various conversations on SEOmoz, and then eventually through twitter. My first impression of him was what I felt I would have been like when I was that age. And I immediately took a liking to him. He was easy to get on with and a pleasure to speak to. As most people know, when it came to my friends in the industry, Jaamit was amongst those that I counted less friend, and more family.  I wish I knew him better. I knew him through SEO and whenever we met up our conversations were all about the industry. I knew a little about where he wanted to go, and what he was doing to try and get there, but outside SEO industry I knew only a little about him.

I did know that he was dedicated, ambitious and a perfectionist. And that despite how well he knew his stuff, he was a nervous wreck when it came to public speaking. He would redo his presentations a million times before he was happy with them, and even then was never quite relaxed. I always teased him about it, and always tried to get him drunk on the night before he was due to speak…

We would play pranks together, and act the fool often when we met up with others for various drinks and events, though he would tell me off for pranking others…(as you can see, my favourite photo of him is in one of those silly moods)

Jaamit

He would come to me for advice and for a listening ear when he was stressed about work, or any major work related decisions, including when he uprooted himself from Brighton to move to London. And I would do what any friend would, listen and offer my opinion. He was smart enough though to take my good advice, and ignore my bad advice. He was brave enough to make decisions that scared him, and ambitious enough to go for his dreams. And he loved SEO and the industry.

The SEO Industry

I think Jaamit would have been both, proud and touched by the love that the industry showed him. I want to thank every one of you who raised a glass to him, sent your love and wishes to both, me and his family.

I have never been prouder to be part of this industry as I have been in last few days. I haven’t seen such support before in my life, from hundreds of offers of support, messages, tweets, emails, texts and phonecalls to the love that 100’s of strangers have shown. For that, thank you.

When my time comes, and if I even manage a fraction of the love that was shown to this boy, then I will feel that I have achieved something in life. It was touching and inspiring to watch the streams of messages and conversations.

I especially want to thank the guys at OMD who have been fantastic.

Me

Like I said, I wish I knew him better, but always thought I would have the time. I felt that he was a brother to me, and I watched with pride as he made decisions that furthered his dreams. I was shocked when I heard the news, and genuinely didn’t know how to react, and on some level still don’t. And I want to thank all those people who offered to help. People have been great at a time when the need existed, and for that I love you.

His passing away made me think, as I am sure it made you too, of the fact that life is so short. There are some changes that I am going to make to my life, while I will improve on other aspects of my existence. Jaamit once told me that he most respected me for offering to hear him out and the advice I was always willing to give him. To thank you all, and to keep that part of my personality that he liked the most, I promise to all in the SEO industry, if there is ANYTHING, I can do, advise on, or help with, my doors will always be open. I lost one brother, but I know that there are hundreds more out there, who have the same dreams, same wishes, and if I can help even one person, in Jaamits name I will.

Thank You

I spoke to Jaamits wife earlier today, and she wanted to pass on her thanks, as well as those of his parents. They read all the tweets, messages and blog posts that were written about him from the moment that the news broke, and it means much to them to see the love that Jaamit was given. So on behalf of them, thank you.

The funeral and wake has been planned for Saturday the 4th of December in Ealing. For those of you who would like to attend the wake to raise a glass to him, please let me know so we can work out the numbers.

Re: Jaamit Wake: Location: Ealing Town Hall in the Nelson Room Friday 2pm, New Broadway, Ealing, London W5 2BY

For those of you who cannot attend, but would like to send flowers or cards, please send them to his house:

  • Ground Floor Flat
  • 48 Leyborne Avenue
  • London
  • W139RA

I cant bear to go through all the tweets again and pul out the lovely things that you guys have said, but if you would like to leave your thoughts and wishes, please do so in the comments below, and I will make sure his family gets them.

Once again, thank you, I love you, and Rest In Peace my friend. You made an impact that has touched thousands, and I wish you could have seen the effect that you have had on people.

Jaamit

I met Jaamit through our various conversations on SEOmoz, and then eventually through twitter. My first impression of him was what I felt I would have been like when I was that age. And I immediately took a liking to him. He was easy to get on with and a pleasure to speak to. As most people know, when it came to my friends in the industry, Jaamit was amongst those that I counted less friend, and more family. I wish I knew him better. I knew him through SEO and whenever we met up our conversations were all about the industry. I knew a little about where he wanted to go, and what he was doing to try and get there, but outside SEO industry I knew only a little about him.

I did know that he was dedicated, ambitious and a perfectionist. And that despite how well he knew his stuff, he was a nervous wreck when it came to public speaking. He would redo his presentations a million times before he was happy with them, and even then was never quite relaxed. I always teased him about it, and always tried to get him drunk on the night before he was due to speak…

He would come to me for advice and for a listening ear when he was stressed about work, or any major work related decisions, including when he uprooted himself from Brighton to move to London. And I would do what any friend would, listen and offer my opinion. He was smart enough though to take my good advice, and ignore my bad advice. He was brave enough to make decisions that scared him, and ambitious enough to go for his dreams. And he loved SEO and the industry.

The SEO Industry

I think Jaamit would have been both, proud and touched by the love that the industry showed him. I want to thank every one of you who raised a glass to him, sent your love and wishes to both, me and his family.

I have never been prouder to be part of this industry as I have been in last few days. I haven’t seen such support before in my life, from hundreds of offers of support, messages, tweets, emails, texts and phonecalls to the love that 100’s of strangers have shown. For that, thank you.

When my time comes, and if I even manage a fraction of the love that was shown to this boy, then I will feel that I have achieved something in life. It was touching and inspiring to watch the streams of messages and conversations.

Me

Like I said, I wish I knew him better, but always thought I would have the time. I felt that he was a brother to me, and I watched with pride as he made decisions that furthered his dreams. I was shocked when I heard the news, and genuinely didn’t know how to react, and on some level still don’t. And I want to thank all those people who offered to help. People have been great at a time when the need existed, and for that I love you.

His passing away made me think, as I am sure id made you too, of the fact that life is so short. There are some changes that I am going to make to my life, while I will improve on other aspects of my existence. Jaamit once told me that he most respected me for offering to hear him out and the advice I was always willing to give him. To thank you all, and to keep that part of my personality that he liked the most, I promise to all in the SEO industry, if there is ANYTHING, I can do, advise on, or help with, my doors will always be open. I lost one brother, but I know that there are hundreds more out there, who have the same dream

Jaamit

I met Jaamit through our various conversations on SEOmoz, and then eventually through twitter. My first impression of him was what I felt I would have been like when I was that age. And I immediately took a liking to him. He was easy to get on with and a pleasure to speak to. As most people know, when it came to my friends in the industry, Jaamit was amongst those that I counted less friend, and more family.  I wish I knew him better. I knew him through SEO and whenever we met up our conversations were all about the industry. I knew a little about where he wanted to go, and what he was doing to try and get there, but outside SEO industry I knew only a little about him.

I did know that he was dedicated, ambitious and a perfectionist. And that despite how well he knew his stuff, he was a nervous wreck when it came to public speaking. He would redo his presentations a million times before he was happy with them, and even then was never quite relaxed. I always teased him about it, and always tried to get him drunk on the night before he was due to speak…

He would come to me for advice and for a listening ear when he was stressed about work, or any major work related decisions, including when he uprooted himself from Brighton to move to London. And I would do what any friend would, listen and offer my opinion. He was smart enough though to take my good advice, and ignore my bad advice. He was brave enough to make decisions that scared him, and ambitious enough to go for his dreams. And he loved SEO and the industry.

The SEO Industry

I think Jaamit would have been both, proud and touched by the love that the industry showed him. I want to thank every one of you who raised a glass to him, sent your love and wishes to both, me and his family.

I have never been prouder to be part of this industry as I have been in last few days. I haven’t seen such support before in my life, from hundreds of offers of support, messages, tweets, emails, texts and phonecalls to the love that 100’s of strangers have shown. For that, thank you.

When my time comes, and if I even manage a fraction of the love that was shown to this boy, then I will feel that I have achieved something in life. It was touching and inspiring to watch the streams of messages and conversations.

Me

Like I said, I wish I knew him better, but always thought I would have the time. I felt that he was a brother to me, and I watched with pride as he made decisions that furthered his dreams. I was shocked when I heard the news, and genuinely didn’t know how to react, and on some level still don’t. And I want to thank all those people who offered to help. People have been great at a time when the need existed, and for that I love you.

His passing away made me think, as I am sure id made you too, of the fact that life is so short. There are some changes that I am going to make to my life, while I will improve on other aspects of my existence. Jaamit once told me that he most respected me for offering to hear him out and the advice I was always willing to give him. To thank you all, and to keep that part of my personality that he liked the most, I promise to all in the SEO industry, if there is ANYTHING, I can do, advise on, or help with, my doors will always be open. I lost one brother, but I know that there are hundreds more out there, who have the same dreams, same wishes, and if I can help even one person, in Jaamits name I will.

Thank You

I spoke to Jaamits wife earlier today, and she wanted to pass on her thanks, as well as those of his parents. They read all the tweets, messages and blog posts that were written about him from the moment that the news broke, and it means much to them to see the love that Jaamit was given. So on behalf of them, thank you.

The funeral and wake has been planned for Saturday the 4th of December in Ealing. For those of you who would like to attend the wake to raise a glass to him, please let me know so we can work out the numbers.

For those of you who cannot attend, but would like to send flowers or cards, please send them to his house:

Ground Floor Flat

48 Leybourne Avenue

London

W139RA

s, same wishes, and if I can help even one person, in Jaamits name I will.

Thank You

I spoke to Jaamits wife earlier today, and she wanted to pass on her thanks, as well as those of his parents. They read all the tweets, messages and blog posts that were written about him from the moment that the news broke, and it means much to them to see the love that Jaamit was given. So on behalf of them, thank you.

The funeral and wake has been planned for Saturday the 4th of December in Ealing. For those of you who would like to attend the wake to raise a glass to him, please let me know so we can work out the numbers.

For those of you who cannot attend, but would like to send flowers or cards, please send them to his house:

Ground Floor Flat

48 Leybourne Avenue

London

W139RA

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Rishi Lakhani is an independent Online Marketing Consultant specialising in SEO, PPC, Affiliate Marketing and Social Media. Explicitly.Me is his Blog. Google Profile

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Carla Marshall November 29, 2010 at 12:15 am

Beautiful post Rishil.

Not sure what to say that hasn’t already been said by a thousand messages already. Despite regularly chatting on Twitter, I only actually met Jaamit a couple of times but that doesn’t make the sense of loss any less. I’m so glad that his wife and family have had a chance to see the reaction from our community and to know how genuine and heartfelt it has been.

Stay strong.

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Marc Levy November 29, 2010 at 3:11 am

Hi Rishil, touching post, it’s 4:47am here in Israel and you almost have me in tears here man.

Although I met Jaamit in person a number of times, much of our talk was obviously via twitter and because of that it was mainly about our shared interests (SEO and Arsenal). Like you mention above, we did not know enough about each other personally, and for that I am sorry, there was so much more to share.

The support shown by the whole community really has blown me away and I am already making an effort to meet up with and share more with industry friends and people on twitter. Hopefully tonight I am meeting with some other ‘Israeli’ guys who Jaamit managed to touch in such a short period of time. Myself, @neyne and @arinahmani will be raising a glass in honour of the man.. we have not all met in person before, but now seems like a fitting time.

My love and support goes out to his family and friends and also to you. Jaamit introduced us briefly at the last Distilled seminar and although we all conversed briefly, it was not enough.

Jaamit RIP

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Andy Betts November 29, 2010 at 3:59 am

Jaamit was a gem. I am thinking about him now. The minute i first met him i walked away thinking “what a nice guy!”. Thats the type of impact he had on people. You must be proud. My best wishes and condolences go out to his wife, family, and close friends. Rishil – keep strong buddy – help from thousands of people is only a tweet away.

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sarah carling November 29, 2010 at 4:28 am

I knew as soon as I saw that you had written a post that what you had to say about jaamit would be eloquent, true, and full of love. I wasn’t quite prepared for just how beautiful it would be. Thank you for expressing what I think everyone who counted Jaamit as a friend is thinking and feeling.

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Nikki Rae November 29, 2010 at 4:57 am

Hi Rishi,

Must be difficult to write one of these and share your inner thoughts, but thanks for doing so. My heart goes out to Negar and Jaamits parents and I hope they can stay strong.
Nikki

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Elaine November 29, 2010 at 7:48 am

One thing I truly believe is that everyone is here for a purpose – no matter how short this part of their particular journey is, whether it’s a few hours, years or decades – and that everyone makes a difference, and goes on making that difference long after they’ve gone.
Jaamit has obviously made a huge difference and touched many, many peoples lives and there’l be tons like me, who wish we’d gone further than the nod and smile and plucked up courage to talk to him at the various conferences.
I hope someone is collecting all those wonderful tributes, in time it will be a great comfort to his family and friends.

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Bas November 29, 2010 at 8:16 am

That must have been the strangest post you have written in your life, filled with both love and sadness. Jaamit was one of the nicest person I have ever met in my life and the reactions on Twitter and this post again confirm that we have lost a very special person.

My thoughts also go out to his family. This must be the worse message you can ever get in your life, I hope that seeing how much he was loved helps them just a little.

Take Rishi, we’ll talk soon.

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Rob Hammond November 29, 2010 at 9:00 am

Hi Rishi

Thanks for this post, really touching, and I know it’s tough to write anything at a time like this. It’s been amazing seeing the response on twitter and online for this fantastic, truly one in a million guy. He’ll be sorely missed as an extremely talented SEO superstar at OMD, but also as a highly valued friend.

I only knew him since around February this year but even in the short time I was lucky enough to know him for, he was clearly one of the most intelligent, genuine, passionate, funny and professional people I’ve ever had the privilege to meet, let alone work with.

RIP Jaamit

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Stuart P Turner November 29, 2010 at 9:30 am

A fitting tribute to a one of a kind man.

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Judith Lewis November 29, 2010 at 9:31 am

Rishi – that was amazing man. You are such an amazing person to be able to expose your soul like this.

I wish I could make the funeral. My gran is unwell and I have booked a flight home to Toronto for that morning and so can’t make it but I am sure it will be packed with all those whose life he impacted.

It’s taking me forever to write this because I keep remembering. He was an amazing person and I hope everyone’s prayers and love wraps his family in a constant comfort. He touched the lives of many whether he realised it or not and that speaks more to the kind of person he was than words ever will.

My thoughts and prayers will be with everyone during the funeral.

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MOGmartin November 29, 2010 at 10:04 am

Hi Rishi,

I only had the pleasure of meeting Jaamit briefly a month or two ago, and the outpouring of grief and touching tributes are testament to both his fantastic nature, and his standing within the close knit community here in London of which I am grateful to call myself a member of.

My thoughts are with his family and friends during this tough period, and my only wish was that I had time to get to know him better.

Sincerely,

Martin MacDonald.

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Elise Pearce November 29, 2010 at 10:44 am

Hey, Thank you for this. It was a great post, I worked with Jaamit at Worth in Brighton a couple of years ago, he was an incredible guy. Always happy, passionate about SEO and such a lovely, fun guy. I definitely want to be there on Saturday to say goodbye to him. Please can you let me know the time and place. Many thanks. Elise

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Branko Rihtman November 29, 2010 at 11:04 am

No words can describe the shock and sadness. So young, such a great guy, such a wonderful life in front of him… I have known Jaamit only through twitter, but even that was enough for his wonderful personality and sharp wit to impress and make his absence so apparent. I was looking forward to meeting him in person, bantering over football, discussing SEO and just becoming friends. Unfortunately that will not happen.

Rishil, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could be there with you for the funeral and the wake but the distance does not permit it. As Marc said above me, a few of the SEO folks will be meeting tomorrow to raise a glass for the man. We have never met before but even after leaving us Jaamit is managing to bring us together. Please send my condolences to his family and I hope to drink with you too in Jaamit’s name when we meet, sooner than later.

Lots of love

Branko (@neyne)

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Glen Allsopp November 29, 2010 at 11:17 am

Hey Rishi,

Thanks for taking the time to write this an put it together. I’m sure Jaamit would have appreciated it. This was a really touching post :)

Cheers,
Glen

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Dipesh Pattni November 29, 2010 at 11:28 am

A beautiful post Rishi! That must have been a very difficult post to right. I only knew Jaamit since he started at OMD and like many of you our discussions were generally about SEO and the industry. It was clear from the first time I met him, how much he knew about SEO. It was always a pleasure to have a chat with Jammit and he was always so graceful.

My thoughts are with his family and friends! Rest in Peace Jaamit!

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Ingo Bousa November 29, 2010 at 12:47 pm

Only just found out 10 mins ago. Been offline since last Friday afternoon. Can’t find words.. so sad. You made me laugh & cry. Top Man. Rest in peace mate.

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Tad Chef November 29, 2010 at 1:56 pm

Thank you for this moving depiction. Almost made me cry.

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Duncan Heath November 29, 2010 at 4:34 pm

Hey Rishil,

Thanks for a really nice tribute, J would have have been proud. Would like to come to funeral if possible, can you email me with details please mate.

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Adam Stafford November 29, 2010 at 8:03 pm

Lovely post Rishi. I know Jaamit trusted your advice and saw you as a brother. I feel lucky to be working in an industry that goes against the grain – it is a community of passionate people who go to extraordinary lengths to help one another. Jaamit personified this. I wish Jaamit could witness the wake he has left behind him – he has touched thousands of people and he won’t be forgotten. I spoke to Jaamit last week and had arranged a beer to catch up – I’m devastated that i will never get the chance to do that. I will see you on Saturday to share some happy memories.

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Kaushik Das November 29, 2010 at 8:48 pm

Hi Rishi,

This is a beautiful post. I am one of Jaamit’s best friends… I went to school with him from 11-18 and we were inseparable. Amongst us he was affectionately known as GBO aka Gazeeb! Everything you have said is true to Jaamit and it seems all his beautiful qualities he displayed when we were young had only flourished. He was a multi talented man, a genius always was and always will be. I was always the money man, standard asian – economics innit! Jaamit could have easily been in that field and killed it but i am happy he didn’t and followed his dreams. He always had a passion for computers but also a passion for the creative side of life but his mathematics skills were second to none. I think in SEO he found his holy grail and I am so glad so many saw/experienced his qualities.

He was truly an amazing bloke, my brother and best friend. Like you say, these things make you realise what is important in life and in his name I will be changing a few things. I vow to keep in contact better with my good friends and family, I soooo regret not keeping in better contact with Jaamit, I was his best man at his wedding but yet we hadn’t really seen eachother since… the hustle and bustle of work, life etc got in the way.. I am not going to let that happen again…

GBO i know you are watching over us.. I love you man.. I don’t want to believe you are gone.. in my heart you are not….

Rishi please get in contact with me.. i would love to meet up and share some stories.. my email is kaushik@hydeparkcorp.co.uk and my number is 07779278835.

I have just been around to the flat and dropped some food for Negar and her family. She has informed me that the funeral is now potentially on Friday as Saturday was not available. I will likely play a few tunes at his wake as Negar has asked me to as a tribute to him. Something you may or may not have known is that he was a keen DJ, a passion we both started together…

If anyone can make it as Rishi said please let us know.

GBO RIP… much love for you xxxxxxx

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Jonathan Stewart November 29, 2010 at 10:52 pm

Hi Rishi,

Beautiful post mate. I met Jaamit just a handful of times – at various SEO conferences in London, and for beers when we were both down in Brighton, and he was just one of those amazing guys that you instantly got along with and felt like you’d been friends with forever. I was deeply saddened to hear the news last week, and my thoughts go out to all his friends and family. Unfortunately I’m unable to make Saturday, but I’ll be thinking of you guys.

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Adam Audette November 30, 2010 at 1:22 am

I only knew Jaamit through his replies on Twitter and comments on my articles. He seemed really passionate about SEO and ecommerce, and had some awesome stuff to share on those topics. He was smart from what I saw, very smart and very generous. I’m sorry to his friends and family for the loss. What else can you say.

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Neelan Das November 30, 2010 at 6:17 am

I am Kaushik’s older brother (6 years difference). As teenagers, I remember Jaamit would be round at our house, after school, practically everyday. He was truly one of our family and we were blessed to have someone like him in our lives.
While he was growing up between the ages of 11 and 18, I remember thinking, this guy is way beyond his years– incredibly intelligent, socially and politically conscious and above all a genuine, true guy, rising above all the usual teenage pitfalls a lot of people fall into. I truly believed he would go very far, and it seems in his short time here, he made a huge impact in his career, and was well set to have a great family life.
I remember talking to him at my brother’s wedding last year, thinking, yes this guy really is flourishing, and fulfilling all his great potential.
I have no idea why his life was cut short, it makes no sense, but I hope in some way, some how some good can come out of this. Seeing all the responses on various sites is already the beginning of that.
Jaamit may you rest in peace in the good place you must be now, and look over the family who remain here.

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elise November 30, 2010 at 10:57 am

Hey, Sorry to post again. Rishil, please can you update your post with concrete details regarding the funeral/wake as and when you know them. Many thanks. Elise

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Yassine December 1, 2010 at 7:41 pm

Such a loss to his family, friends and to our SEO community. Jaamit was genius but humble, able to ply complexity into beautiful simplicity. My thoughts are with Jaamit’s family and friends and my prayers are to his peaceful journey, rest in peace Jaamit.

Yassine.

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Illiya Vjestica December 3, 2010 at 6:14 pm

A lovely and fitting tribute to Jaamit. Rishil he would be very proud of you right now. I’ve enjoyed reading all the post and tributes today, such kind words. He was truly an inspiration to all who followed and knew him.

A really top bloke, I’m glad I got to talk to him for a short while at ThinkVis. His link building presentation was the best advice I have ever heard about that subject, I will remember his wise insightful words forever.

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Arjun Sandhu December 3, 2010 at 10:29 pm

Thank you Rishi for the post. Indeed life is very short and unpredictable.

I pray for Jaamit and may God give his family the courage to deal with this great loss. I have read great things about him from everyone and I wish I had met him.

Thank you to everyone who posted here. It is very heart warming to see the support and love.

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Srinivas Kumar December 5, 2010 at 11:53 am

Rest In Peace Jaamit

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